Hey Dreamer
Over the last 5 years or so, you might have noticed this phenomenon where people disappear (i.e., go M.I.A.) or don’t answer messages instead of responding that’s been termed “ghosting.”
I blame it on my generation where people picked up the phone when it rang, called people back when they called, and politely declined invitations they could not attend, for the fact that in my opinion “ghosting” is inherently rude.
And, if I allow myself to take it a step further, I’d include it in my list of passive-aggressive behaviours.
However, I’m also aware that part of the problem when it comes to ghosting is that people have no idea how to say NO.
It’s an art that’s been lost.
But knowing how to say NO is so important when you’re learning to listen to your heart so you can pursue what your heart truly desires to do.
In these cases, saying NO makes room for your YES. Learning to say NO gives you a voice, shares your opinions, and allows you to feel fully expressed, and empowered.
Without the NO, you’re staying small in a world that makes you feel as though your unique voice doesn’t matter.
But it does!!
Saying NO is a way to share your truth.
You can say NO, without any further explanation, but you can also say:
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No, thank you, not now
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I have other plans at that time, I’m not available, or
- I’ve decided to pursue a different career path
- I’ve decided to choose a different option for myself
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I’m no longer interested
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I’ve changed my mind
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I don’t need your services
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Working together isn’t a good fit
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This doesn’t fit the budget I had in mind
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I’m choosing to end this relationship
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I’m no longer interested in pursuing this relationship
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I’m sorry, no thank you
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I’m no longer available
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I’ve made other plans …
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My answer is no
The list is endless on how you can honour yourself by expressing your truth with a clear NO.
So, when it comes to your career, are you having honest conversations with yourself and honouring your NO so you can pursue a YES; or do you still pretend it’s a yes and ignore your true feelings?
Inspiring YOU to Live a Life you LOVE
Priscilla
p.s. Share this with someone who needs to learn how to say NO!
